Keeping 'Her' Safe - A Man's approach

11:16 am on 2nd August 2015..... 

This is a blog post which I always wanted to write but see we need motivation to do/write anything and YES finally I found it. All the points mentioned here based on research, personal experiences, observations, informal interviews, advices and stories from successful relationship makers. 

We see and hear many relationship problems all across the globe. Forget the globe, its in our country, its in our neighborhood, its within our families, its in our own relationships. This blog post is trying to figure out remedies for man and woman relationship issues from "A Man's approach" point of view.

This is a piece of an advice which my mother gave me yesterday which ignite me to write this blog. 

"You will come across many beautiful women in your life asking you to dine out. But wait don't forget your wife and kids are waiting for you to return for supper. She might not be beautiful as they are but beauty didn't speak none when she took care of your kids, took care of you, took care of you when you were sick, loved you and above all she said yes when you asked her out"

The symbolic representation of first man and woman, Adam & Eve were not two entities but one. Made by a heavenly being called God. Once mated, this representation of "one"ness passed down to humans for generations and this will passed on to many generations to come despite the colour, race or the religion and respected as a holy bonding of two souls. 

This bond as one made possible through love, affection, caring, race, religion, safety and many more other parameters. 

Let's see what my findings says for men to do. 

1. Trust is a must 

This is insanely crucial. If she figures out you are not trustworthy, she'll keep nagging that point in her every conversation. Be trustworthy. 

2. They can remember what you said or did even after 100 years. 

Through the evolution process your women has got an ability to remember every single word which uttered. Specially they can remember the bad days, the bad memories which would highlight even you have done tons of good things to her. All you can do is to mitigate the impact but its hard to prevent. 

3. She likes when you support her for house hold work 

No matter how tired you are after a heavy project at office she like if you can at least wash a few dishes after dinner. 

4. She needs a break. 

Humans need breaks so does she. 

5. Have a date day 

This is something good to do even you have kids or newly married. Dont forget your humble beginnings. Have fun, run on the beach, gaze at stars or the moon, take her out for dinner and yes surprise is a keyword. 

6. Dont be late to go home.  

This is a real problem these days. Women want their man to be home as early as possible no matter he's a director of a company or the owner. 

7. Do not condemn, criticize or complain about her in front of others. 

Think a minute, would you like to be embarrassed in front of a bunch of people? No right. Public embarrassment by a person is a breach of trustworthiness and ignite unsafe feeling. Appraise her of what she does best .  

8. Respect her and treat her well

Everyone wants to respected and to be treated well. This is true for both you and me. She will be expecting that a lot from you since you are special. 

9. She like when you read her mind 

Men are not magicians or fortune tellers and I repeat that but why women want their men to read their mind and understand what they want? That is insane. She usually dont communicate straight what she want but she will tell you a story, show something and say that's nice...etc. That's the clue that shes giving you. Here is the drill,men cannot satisfy everything of what women want but making sure you pick right one or two mind readings and fulfill that at the right time and at the right place will make her spill the magic words out. "You read my mind".   

10. Dont take her for granted. 

We will start missing her when we loose only. Till then due to many reasons we take them for granted which mindfully needs to be avoided. This is critical.  

11. Avoid dealing a lot with other women. 

Women are born with jealous and they dont want men to be dealing a lot with other women. Best part is she wont show that she's jealous but her actions speaks. Other than official engagements better keep limits. 

12. She likes to be seen with you 

Posing in a picture to seeing you in a public place by others, something that she likes to happen. 

13. Mans got to do what mans got to do 

Ahem you need to do what a mans got to do to keep her happy ;) 

14. Talk to her and Listen, right communication is the king  

Talk to her. Anything. Your work matters, whom you met what she's been up to, what her problems. Make those conversations by adding humour and fun. Listening to her is a key factor since sometimes she dont want you to talk but to listen which would make her happy. Make time to talk and listen how busy you become on a daily basis.

15. Make her a part of the solution. 

Get her opinion in decision making so she will feel she's a part of the solution. 

16. Show that you are there for her. 

Feeling of safety, that's something you need to show and give her on a regular basis. 

17. Show that you are a good father 

A good father takes care of their children, attend parents meetings, talk to their kids nicely, spend time playing with them and make plans for a better future of their kids. 

18. Give her an update 

This can be a location update to asking if you ate and whether she ate too. Be in touch how busy you become or else she will post which would say "None of us is busy. Its about priorities".  

19. Share 

Share what you dont share with anyone else and make sure you share it only with her / parents of yours. She like when you share photos, ideas, stories, achievements...etc and get her to share her thoughts and opinions. 

20. Tell that you love her and mean it. 

She know when you dont mean it. So yes lets mean it when ever we say it out. 

If you have someone special in your life, go apply these now. All of these might not be of your ability to implement but at least do a few to make her happy and see how your relationship fly. The key to success you need to be consistent.  

We men can be busy as a workshop with the intention to achieve, to create a better life for our families and safe future for your kids. Technology has made us far more busier than making us less busy. But lets keep in mind your relationship with her would shape the future of you, your family and your kids. Lets be mindful and practice. Practice will make you perfect. Meanwhile your woman also needs to understand you well.   

The researches, advices, mistakes,personal experience around this topic made me learn understanding relationship matters and I learnt in the harder way and I wanted to share with you so would learn too. 

P.S - These fundamentals would work for women in general. Beside the ones who has an ego or who needs an attitude therapy.  

Until next blog post, here are a few songs to solidify what you just learnt. This post will evolve as and when we discover new knowledge around this topic.